• Little boy with his hands touching a paper cut out of a red heart.
    Helping Children,  Life Experiences

    Oh, Those Days

    This won’t be published before Mother’s Day 2019, but it is still important. Maybe the message will prepare those concerned for the coming year. The “days” I refer to are labeled, Mother’s Day,  Father’s Day, Grandparent’s Day and then Parents’ Day, as if Mother and Father didn’t get gifts the first time. There are celebrations galore and people are made to feel special. For one day. I am a real Scrooge about these days for a variety of reasons. Firstly let me protect myself before the attackers take over.  Whomever wants to celebrate those occasions need to do so. These are merely my opinions. My children were raised to believe…

  • A roller coaster at an amusement park.
    Healing Lessons,  Life transitions

    Making Choices While On the Emotional Roller Coaster

    My friend, Edie, describes the roller coaster so well. When we go and get on a roller coaster, we know it is going to go up and then it goes down. We can expect to know when we can get off. On the other hand, for an emotional roller coaster, one never knows when it will start or stop. It can surprise us at any time about anything. One can be enjoying friends and going home feeling well and happy. Then wham! An unwelcome emotional downer hits hard. What can we do about it?  Understand Choice I learned about choice from my ‘bible’, Man’s Search for Meaning, by Dr. Viktor…

  • Hand touching window pane.
    Courage,  Grief

    Apathy and Feelings of Indifference Among Recovery Workers

    “Apparently helping people who have lost their loved ones isn’t important because, after all, they are not billable.” According to my favourite information resource, The Oxford English Reference Dictionary, the definition of apathy is the “Lack of interest or feelings of indifference.” Lack of Interest or Feelings of Indifference I won’t bore you with more description details. In its simplicity the definition says it all. Guess what? There is no Latin word for apathy. In my Cassell’s Latin Dictionary there is no word for apathy. All that is written is apathetic (English) as in adjective. Fascinating. The basis of all English, Latin has no description for apathy. This says a…

  • Stacy at the podium giving a talk.
    Courage,  Grief,  Helping Children

    DON’T YOU GET USED TO IT

    It is 7:35 p.m. on Tuesday, April 9. Every year, Victims Services of Montgomery County hold a memorial service and vigil for families and friends of homicides. I am honoured to be asked to present the Spiritual Invocation. This is my twenty third year attending. Watching those in anguish is heartbreaking. I have friends who have lost their children in this evil way and some have told me of the incredibly ignorant questions and comments they had to endure. Yes, I am sure it is done with every good intention. It is important to think before speaking. The poem I like by Angela Miller goes as follows:                             MY CHILD…

  • Money spread out over white background.
    Achievements,  Life Experiences

    Let’s Talk About Money

    I’ve been thinking about this topic for a long time and as we are approaching the dreaded April 15 deadline for taxes many people are very concerned about the new laws and how they will affect most of us.  Understandable. Money has been a long debated issue for many years and to me, a complete mystery. Let’s go back to how we were raised for example. I was brought up – if you can call it that – being taught that if people had a lot of money they must have done something really bad or even criminal to get it. Needless to say I was raised in the war…

  • Old typewriter with a time piece draped over it.
    Life transitions

    Hallo. It’s Me!

    Having battled writer’s block for several months, the Universe relented and here I am. Usually writer’s block is described as people looking at a blank screen or notepaper. The opposite applies to me. I have too much to write about. An idea jumps into action and before I can write the title, ten more attack my brain and I forget the first one. Now my book author friend, Edie Weinstein, is different. As far as I know, she has never had writer’s block. She lives to write, when she should be writing to live. Why is her creative brilliance not recognised? She doesn’t have a marketer and readers don’t respond…