• Woman smiling at herself in mirror.
    Achievements,  Gratitude,  Humor

    If Only They Knew

    Just recently I conducted a memorial service for a man whose family wanted it to be more of a celebration of his life. He wasn’t very old. They told me a lot about him. They described him as hilarious, compassionate, a people person, and generous. Most of all he adored his family – his wife and two daughters, sons in law and grandchildren, his twin brother and other members of the tribe! They told me he had a laugh that would bring the walls down and that had he had known me; he would have had my accent to perfection within three minutes. Moreover, he would have discovered the events…

  • Woman with naked back holding a flower over her spine.
    Healing Lessons

    Pain

    There is only one reason for pain, be it mental, physical, spiritual, emotional. Something needs attention. I write about my personal life because, while to some it may appear to be unprofessional, the truth is that by being forthcoming with my pain, it helps my readers to know they are not alone with their own. I have been in physical pain for about two weeks now and have sought treatment. Some works for a bit, some doesn’t. The important thing is I do seek treatment, which when I was STRONG for all those years, I did not. The pain is located in the lower right back. Should that have been…

  • Couple holding hands and making the shape of a heart.
    Life transitions,  yvonneisms

    Family Can Be Anybody Who Loves Enough

    I don’t know what to call this. I think it’s my grasshopper brain in action. It is 1:47am. I had all intentions of actually going to bed and sleep. Such an optimist. Sleep has become elusive lately and erratic. Like this early morning, due to some physical pain, I am awake and raring to go, although there isn’t anywhere to go except Wegman’s, my 24/7 therapy place. Can’t be bothered to get dressed, so I thought – write a blog. Bored to tears with regular television programmes I logged onto Amazon and came across a film I had never seen. It was surprising I hadn’t seen it as it had…

  • Woman dancing on a boardwalk
    Courage,  Life transitions

    Change of Attitude

    So much has been written about attitude.  An attitude of gratitude is well known indeed, and it doesn’t have to remain the same because like life itself, attitudes embrace change. This isn’t entirely popular as there are so many different aspects to change.  Life’s challenges will change so much and with these, comes grief sometimes. Desires are part of these changes too like wanting to have love, friendship, loyalty, touch, conversation, and confidentiality. People want to grow and become whatever their dreams are, their wishes for a better life, more prosperity, work they love so that doesn’t feel like work, and success, although some are so beaten down they can’t…

  • woman holding a camera
    Life Experiences

    Ageism

    What is old? Some time ago one of my children on my asking her a question said, “I just told you that”. I said, “Do you know how many times I had to repeat myself when you were little?” It never happened again. According to my favourite reference book, The Oxford English Dictionary, Ageism is prejudice or discrimination on the grounds of age. I AM NOT AGING. I AM RIPENING. I AM SEASONING. I AM WEATHERING. I AM MARINATING. I AM THRIVING. We have to pay attention to our responsibility to ourselves as we live in one of the worst countries regarding the aging population. We pay more for car…