• What price love?
    Life Experiences

    What Price Love?

    As Dr. Robert Ackerman wrote in his extraordinary book, Same House, Different Home, family members do not see addictions in the same light. Over the years, I found myself as an intermediary, mostly with families involved in interventions. So, when a family member told me where their votes would go, I was gob smacked. I never would have believed it. It was swiftly followed with – “I don’t want to talk about it.” That was a relief as neither did I. In my work I’ve seen severe family disagreements over religion and politics which have torn them asunder. However, I never thought it would happen to me. So what does…

  • Woman back floating in water with flowers.
    Healing Lessons,  Life Experiences

    Resentments

    Having worked in the field of addictions for so long, I understand there are three things that can really cause a relapse. Boredom, step 13 (inappropriate ‘love’ affairs) and resentments. Certainly I had a lot of them years ago, but no more. I am only going to take one at this time, resentments, as I think it is the most challenging. This week I came across words spoken by one of my hereos. I have a lot of them in varied life and no-longer-life forms. This one is so crucial today. “As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I…

  • An organized desk
    Life Experiences

    Oh Those Distractions

    Having broken through whatever was keeping me from writing my blog I wrote two tonight and was preparing to go to bed in case I was lucky enough to sleep, when I thought to myself- you have to write another one. I had to have a discussion with myself about why it had taken so long to break through the block and I decided it was distractions. Here are some of them. Patience and Solitaire The most formidable is what I call Patience and what you call Solitaire. Then there is spider solitaire and I am hooked. One might talk or write about Pokémon or whatever that is. I don’t…

  • Birdie, 1938
    Humor,  Life Experiences,  Women’s enrichment

    Aunt Birdie

    On February 26, I flew out from Philadelphia International on my Aunt Birdie’s eighty-seventh birthday. Because I rarely sleep on planes I had time to think about her and the nature of my visit. Obviously I wanted to see her but it was more than that. She was an icon of warmth, unconditional love and laughter when I was a child. She was the light of an otherwise gloomy existence. I wanted her to know how much I appreciated her taking an interest in a little girl, and sowing the seed of self respect as no one else had. This in itself is a gift which I have passed onto…

  • 2 women in an old cafe
    Life Experiences

    Take It From Me, You Can Do It

    I wrote a poem many years ago when I was going through great trauma in particular about love and my part in it. It was after the divorce. Up to that point, I had been the worst codependent on the planet, well taught by my mother, so saying no and pretending I was independent with a lot of strengths, were largely a part of my fertile imagination. The marriage had been for almost twenty-five years and one evening my husband asked me, “What would you like for the Silver Wedding?”  I was in shock as I hadn’t received gift of that nature and from somewhere came a voice. I still…

  • The word Whoa on a stop sign
    Humor,  Life Experiences

    TCA – A New Self Help Group

    I bless the day that the remarkable Bill Wilson, together with Dr. Bob, counseled a third drunk and Alcoholics Anonymous was born.  It is hard to believe there was a time when there was no AA. Now there are many offshoots of this incredible worldwide program, all of which are very necessary. So, in due deference to Mr. Wilson, I decided to create yet another self-help group. It is called…………. TCA.  Technologically Challenged Anonymous. Did I mention, (Oh yes Yvonne, numerous times) that I am computer phobic? Whenever I try to contact the support system for my chosen carrier, I sing whilst waiting to be heard, “HELP, I NEED SOMEONE,…