• Girl alone with dog
    Healing Lessons,  Life Experiences

    It Only Takes One Bully

    I really do not know what happens to me when I am not feeling well. My brain does cartwheels and I have to write about situations I think about but rarely speak of. This time I have the need to write about something I loathe. I Loathe Gossip Now that’s a great opener isn’t it? GOSSIP. I don’t like judgmental attitudes either, but I despise gossip. Having been a Samaritan since I was eighteen in the UK, I can say without doubt, that GOSSIP is one of the main causes of suicide. It has always been this way and now with cyber bullying we have a massive challenge. According to…

  • Life Experiences

    Things I Miss

    I was ruminating on something or other recently and thought about what I miss. The more I thought about it, the longer the list became and I wondered whether other people felt the same way. Perhaps it is because I am ripening. I am not aging. I am weathering, thriving, marinating, but not aging. In fact, I am very fond of the quotation by Albert Camus, “In the midst of winter, I found in me an invincible summer.” Mail Leaving the obvious out of it, such as people I love, there are other changes that sadden me at times. Of course there are those I delight in their absence. What…

  • WWII Plane
    Life Experiences

    This Is The Time (Is WWII History Repeating Itself?)

    When I write a blog post I normally sit at the computer and the words run freely. This time, which is THE time, I started on four occasions to compose this piece. There are reasons. The first is that this topic is extremely painful for me and second I will be trying to explain the inexplicable. I am referring to the violence in my country during the Second World War and the similarities I am observing today. When I was a little girl, I heard about this ‘silly little man’ posturing, shouting, and gesticulating with his ridiculous hairstyle and moustache. People thought he was a joke. There were comic strips,…

  • What price love?
    Life Experiences

    What Price Love?

    As Dr. Robert Ackerman wrote in his extraordinary book, Same House, Different Home, family members do not see addictions in the same light. Over the years, I found myself as an intermediary, mostly with families involved in interventions. So, when a family member told me where their votes would go, I was gob smacked. I never would have believed it. It was swiftly followed with – “I don’t want to talk about it.” That was a relief as neither did I. In my work I’ve seen severe family disagreements over religion and politics which have torn them asunder. However, I never thought it would happen to me. So what does…

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    Healing Lessons,  Life Experiences


    Having worked in the field of addictions for so long, I understand there are three things that can really cause a relapse. Boredom, step 13 (inappropriate ‘love’ affairs) and resentments. Certainly I had a lot of them years ago, but no more. I am only going to take one at this time, resentments, as I think it is the most challenging. This week I came across words spoken by one of my hereos. I have a lot of them in varied life and no-longer-life forms. This one is so crucial today. “As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I…

  • An organized desk
    Life Experiences

    Oh Those Distractions

    Having broken through whatever was keeping me from writing my blog I wrote two tonight and was preparing to go to bed in case I was lucky enough to sleep, when I thought to myself- you have to write another one. I had to have a discussion with myself about why it had taken so long to break through the block and I decided it was distractions. Here are some of them. Patience and Solitaire The most formidable is what I call Patience and what you call Solitaire. Then there is spider solitaire and I am hooked. One might talk or write about Pokémon or whatever that is. I don’t…