• Woman posing
    Humor,  Life Experiences

    Humility

    First let me differentiate between HUMILITY and HUMBLE. I know, the recovery programs insist on using humble. Humble to me is groveling, tipping your cap to your betters with body language that brings memories of the serfs in England, bowing to the Lord of the Manor. In the United Kingdom the word handicapped is not used in regards to special needs people. It is because the peasants had to tip their cap when they saw the Duke or Duchess of the estate where they lived and worked. Cap in Hand – hand in cap. Another thought is that the word comes from humiliation. Having worked in the recovery field for…

  • Hamstead, London
    Grief,  Humor,  Life Experiences

    What’s It All About, Angels?

    I had a very significant dream last night. In fact, I was quite shaken when Della, my younger cat jumped on the bed and walked across my pillow.  She rarely wakens me and this time she was persistent. I didn’t want her to, as there was no ending, no conclusion, finale, whatever the word is and I wanted to know. Someone was leaving on a British Airways plane. I wasn’t told who it was but I was sure I knew. I didn’t see him.  He said he would wait for me as I had meetings and couldn’t get there on time to board with him. I finished the meetings early…

  • A room with a chair and piano
    Life Experiences

    If Music Be the Food of Love

    “If music be the food of love, play on. Give me excess of it…” and the rest of Duke Orsino in Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night dialog is immaterial for this writing. He is pining for some wealthy woman who doesn’t like his attention. So that’s all there is. I found that music is as much an underrated healing as humor. Both are exquisite in many aspects of emotions.  When I work in rehabs with recovering people, I ask them – what takes your breath away? Inevitably they say its music, animals and nature.  For me, music can soothe the savage beast and there’s nothing like a belly laugh to restore my…

  • Life Experiences

    Eight Thirty, Bewitching Time (Tea Is The Answer to all Ill’s)

    About a week ago, my daughter Michelle told me the secret to getting a good night’s sleep. Since then, I have followed her advice and slept surprisingly well. Michelle has a son, Nicolas, who has a condition called Tuberous Sclerosis. It is severe and she hasn’t slept for years. She now turns off her phone and computer at 8:30 pm. She hasn’t watched television unless she records something she likes. She prefers to view the food channels and says she can’t remember the last time she heard the newscasters on TV. So, as it is now 7:49 pm, I must hurry to write this blog post. I wanted to write…

  • TV set sitting on a street
    Life Experiences

    What On Earth is the Matter With Me?

    WHAT THE HELL IS THE MATTER WITH ME? Many years ago I would start reading a book and not enjoy it. However, I had to finish it just to see. See what? No answer. By the same token, I would watch a film or DVD which bored or depressed me to tears. I had to watch it until the end. In 1981 this all changed. From somewhere in my depths, I entered a powerful time in my life. On our approaching Silver wedding anniversary, my first husband asked what I would want as a gift. What? He wants to give me something, rather than one of his travelling lady friends?…

  • Mrs. Cratchit
    Humor,  Life Experiences

    Halloween, Dressing Up and Playing Ourselves

    Halloween, per my favorite authority, the Oxford English Dictionary, is of pre-Christian origin, being associated with the Samhain the Celtic (my people) Festival, when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off roaming ghosts. The evening of October 31st, the start of All Saints Day, marks the end of the year and the beginning of winter when ghosts and spirits were thought to be abroad.  It was later adopted as a Christian festival, but gradually became secular rather than a Christian observance, involving dressing up and the wearing of masks and was particularly strong in Scotland. Brought to American by early colonists, beliefs and customs of different European…